About the Books
Every Baby Knows: How to Train their Parents
This book is my heartfelt contribution to the next generation of families. After 25 years observing parenting through three-day live in visits, the path to lasting change became clear.
Every baby knows how to teach their parents. Family happiness begins in the nursery with the simplest transition: putting your baby to bed. This gentle experience teaches the parent how to create space for self-regulation—a baby’s first life lesson.
An essential building block for emotional intelligence and general wellbeing. When families miss this foundation, they struggle with cycles of correction and intervention. But when
mum, dad, and baby all get on board in the nursery—everyone learns how change truly works. It’s all about relationships. This is the time to learn how humans work. Then something special happens. Dads support their wives in these early moments, the whole family transforms and stays connected for all of life’s struggles. Learn the mechanics of change at the beginning of your parenting journey. Learn once, use forever. Perhaps the gift of less could be your answer to loving your child every day of their lives.
Remember your baby is your best teacher.
Children Matter: Understanding is the Key
Over countless cuppas at kitchen tables, she sat through meltdowns, witnessed bedtime struggles, and shared in quiet moments of breakthrough. What she learned: parents aren’t lacking in love or effort – they’re lacking understanding.
In her first book, Every Baby Knows: How to Train Their Parents, she shared how our little ones are always teaching us, if we know how to listen. Now, in Children Matter, she takes you deeper into something that changed everything for her – the beautiful connection between working with horses and understanding our children.
When she discovered Pat Parelli’s Seven Games, something clicked. These weren’t just techniques for horses – they were a map for any relationship built on trust and understanding. When she found Sydney Banks’ Three Principles, the missing piece fell into place. Suddenly, she could see why some families found their way through struggles while others stayed stuck.
Here’s what she came to understand: change doesn’t start with your child. It starts with you. And it can begin with something as simple as choosing which hand to use when you play these games together. That choice – and the awareness it brings – opens a door to seeing your own patterns, your own reactions, your own thinking.
The Seven Games give you practical steps. The Three Principles – Mind, Consciousness, and Thought – help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. Together, they guide you toward your next step, whatever that might be for your family.
This isn’t about control. It’s about connection. It’s about discovering that when you understand how thought works, you can respond with wisdom instead of reacting from stress.
Take The Test: Before your Teenager drives you Crazy
The bag on the floor. Again.
You have tried everything consequences, rewards, explanations. Nothing works. The conflicts escalate. The distance grows.
Here’s what you couldn’t see:
You never had a bag problem. You had an environment problem you did not know you were creating. Every time that bag hit the floor, you left your calm driver’s seat and jumped into reactive chaos. Your teenager was not responding to your reasonable request—they were responding to the atmosphere you were unknowingly generating.
Same bag. Different environment. Completely different outcome.
This is what Jenny Roberts discovered across 25 years living in families’ homes: parents cannot see that their thinking—in the moment—creates the environment their teenager responds to.
Not because you’re doing something wrong. Because no one ever showed you where to look.
Through the driving metaphor you already understand, this book shows you what’s been invisible:
• Which seat you’re in during challenging moments
• What fuel you’re unknowingly running on
• How your feelings show you which environment you’re generating
Once you know where to look, everything gets easier.
The skills you need are already within you—You use them every time you drive. The principles work like gravity—always there, just waiting to be noticed. This book shows you where to look.
Life is short. Why spend it in conflict when connection is possible?
Notice the feeling. Recognise what it is showing you. Watch how much lighter family life becomes.
It is worth finding out.
About the Books
Every Baby Knows: How to Train their Parents
This book is my heartfelt contribution to the next generation of families. After 25 years observing parenting through three-day live in visits, the path to lasting change became clear.
Every baby knows how to teach their parents. Family happiness begins in the nursery with the simplest transition: putting your baby to bed. This gentle experience teaches the parent how to create space for self-regulation—a baby’s first life lesson.
An essential building block for emotional intelligence and general wellbeing. When families miss this foundation, they struggle with cycles of correction and intervention. But when
mum, dad, and baby all get on board in the nursery—everyone learns how change truly works. It’s all about relationships. This is the time to learn how humans work. Then something special happens. Dads support their wives in these early moments, the whole family transforms and stays connected for all of life’s struggles. Learn the mechanics of change at the beginning of your parenting journey. Learn once, use forever. Perhaps the gift of less could be your answer to loving your child every day of their lives.
Remember your baby is your best teacher.
Children Matter: Understanding is the Key
Over countless cuppas at kitchen tables, she sat through meltdowns, witnessed bedtime struggles, and shared in quiet moments of breakthrough. What she learned: parents aren’t lacking in love or effort – they’re lacking understanding.
In her first book, Every Baby Knows: How to Train Their Parents, she shared how our little ones are always teaching us, if we know how to listen. Now, in Children Matter, she takes you deeper into something that changed everything for her – the beautiful connection between working with horses and understanding our children.
When she discovered Pat Parelli’s Seven Games, something clicked. These weren’t just techniques for horses – they were a map for any relationship built on trust and understanding. When she found Sydney Banks’ Three Principles, the missing piece fell into place. Suddenly, she could see why some families found their way through struggles while others stayed stuck.
Here’s what she came to understand: change doesn’t start with your child. It starts with you. And it can begin with something as simple as choosing which hand to use when you play these games together. That choice – and the awareness it brings – opens a door to seeing your own patterns, your own reactions, your own thinking.
The Seven Games give you practical steps. The Three Principles – Mind, Consciousness, and Thought – help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. Together, they guide you toward your next step, whatever that might be for your family.
This isn’t about control. It’s about connection. It’s about discovering that when you understand how thought works, you can respond with wisdom instead of reacting from stress.
Take The Test: Before your Teenager drives you Crazy
The bag on the floor. Again.
You have tried everything consequences, rewards, explanations. Nothing works. The conflicts escalate. The distance grows.
Here’s what you couldn’t see:
You never had a bag problem. You had an environment problem you did not know you were creating. Every time that bag hit the floor, you left your calm driver’s seat and jumped into reactive chaos. Your teenager was not responding to your reasonable request—they were responding to the atmosphere you were unknowingly generating.
Same bag. Different environment. Completely different outcome.
This is what Jenny Roberts discovered across 25 years living in families’ homes: parents cannot see that their thinking—in the moment—creates the environment their teenager responds to.
Not because you’re doing something wrong. Because no one ever showed you where to look.
Through the driving metaphor you already understand, this book shows you what’s been invisible:
• Which seat you’re in during challenging moments
• What fuel you’re unknowingly running on
• How your feelings show you which environment you’re generating
Once you know where to look, everything gets easier.
The skills you need are already within you—You use them every time you drive. The principles work like gravity—always there, just waiting to be noticed. This book shows you where to look.
Life is short. Why spend it in conflict when connection is possible?
Notice the feeling. Recognise what it is showing you. Watch how much lighter family life becomes.
It is worth finding out.